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Mammamel

07-20-2007, 10:53 AM

I really do not get why folks are so obsessed with PH, but it seems they are. The first batch of comments were so nasty i deleted them.
From now on I will answer them, as God directs, I will no longer worry how the other posters appear with what they say, that is not my look out, they are responsible for themselves and their words.
This is the latest post, it appears on my AC article here:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/178284/living_with_an_internet_community.html
If any one from here feels moved to respond there, or here, please keep in mind who you are, you are a lady, a daughter of THE King, not a gutter snipe who needs to hurt others.
so here is the comment:
Quote:
Mel, we are here to warn good Christian women to be careful when joining PH, because there is a very good chance they will get hurt there. Not very Christian for mods to be gossiping about other members when there is a no gossip rule. very hypocritical

Now to be honest, I am getting tired and losing patience with several people about now who keep bringing up untrue issues for rehashing... or trying to read things into stuff i do that is not there. So my reply to them is this:

Yeah I see, warn people using the same tactics you accuse PHers of using... that is real convincing. I do not gossip about anyone on PH.

Do we discuss issues we have with members, like the trolls and such? Yep we do. If a member has an issue do we discuss how best to handle it? Yes we do. Otherwise it would just be me doing it all. Trust me no one would really want that.
I have little patience for whining, complaining and general idiocy. Like claiming Christianity while being nasty, anyone who read those posts before, would have serious doubts of the mental stability and character of the posters. Granted some on PH have done that, some may again do it in the future, however things are changing daily.
Former PHers have no real idea of what the site is now so they need to move on down the road and leave us alone, like we are doing them. Only one poster had a legit issue, and I dealt with that already.

As far as gripes about certain posters, well they need to go to THE PERSON they have an issue with. God says to do that, He does not say go and spread nastiness all over because some one else has, or because you think you were wronged.

Look here is the deal. PH is a Faith based Bible literal site. That means folks who value their religion above the Bible are not going to find it comfortable. We do not support the work of any preachers or other teachers who press their ideas above God, or over His word.

It also means folks who want to discuss the latest scandals are not going to be welcome. We can get plenty of scandal and stuff to get upset about all over the web.

PH is a place for like minded women to gather and support each other. Have we made some errors? Yes we have. Should we be pushed into oblivion because of them? Ummm no not unless some one else who is perfect comes along to do it. Since no one ever on PH has been perfect, no stones should be being thrown. Or did Christ get that part wrong?

Does that mean we will remain small? Yep. However anyone who thinks PH is meant to grow into a huge thing is missing the point.
There really are not huge groups of folks who take the Bible as their authority, and not some man made doctrine.

So PH never gets to be a huge 1 million member site, big deal. I don’t want that, I would rather it be small and really mean something to the people who CHOOSE to call it home. That includes some folks who have been on here since before I took it over 4 years ago.

Now what I do not get it this. I KNOW why I deal with PH so much, I do not understand why others can’t move on but are obsessed with trying to tear it down.

That however is an issue of their’s, not mine. I will just keep doing what I am doing, sometimes getting it right, sometimes not, after all I, like everyone else on PH am only human.

sarahdavis

07-20-2007, 11:12 AM

Mel, I think what we have here is great. I think any "Good Christan women" that join will see the truth about how you run the site. Thanks for everything you do!

Avie

07-20-2007, 12:53 PM

I am so shocked that anyone could say anything bad about PH! There is hardly ANY gossip or anything nasty here.

I love PH and it has been a HUGE blessing to me and my DH too!

hidi74

07-20-2007, 02:24 PM

Mel I am glad that you do all that you do for all of us. Recently PH has become quieter and back to what it once was. I for one am very pleased!!! Ph has been an amazing blessing in my life!

Ketann

07-20-2007, 02:34 PM

PH has been a huge blessing to me. Sometimes I feel alone with my beliefs. I am never alone here. Thank you so much for this safe haven, Mel!

Hugs,
Keturah

GrammyGoo

07-20-2007, 02:43 PM

I Love it here. Much of the Troll Stuff, Nasty people stuff go over my head anyway..porbably a good thing. . I think you said it in your post Mel. I came here to learn share and Grow with " Like minded " sisters in the Lord. Not that we are going to agree on everything.

But I have found this forum to be warm, and inviting . What going on over my head-who nows , I 'm kinda glad I don't get it all the time. Thank you for all you do. God's Blessing Be with you .

Proverb:10:6: Blessings are upon the head of the just: but violence covereth the mouth of the wicked.

Bleesing GG

suzen

07-20-2007, 05:30 PM

I do not understand why you seem the need to defend yourself. As I have gotten older, I also have gotten a lot wiser. I have learned that what is important and that of what is is not important; one of which, is others opinions of me and how I choose to live my life. I see them for what they only are, and that is just their opinions. I define who I am. Each day, is another day that I work very hard, at being a woman of integrity, honesty, loyalty and to be respectful of others. I strive to communicate in a way that is always done with respect, even at times I do not agree with what is being said. These are my convictions.

I know that the beliefs you communicate on PH are things, you feel very strongly about. Do not let others opinions, make you feel like you have to justify how you feel. As long as you are true to yourself about how you live your life, then that is all that matters. I do not always agree with some of your views, but I do so admire and respect you, for the strength of your convictions.

frugalallyn

07-20-2007, 05:44 PM

Sigh . . . Mel, I don't think I am going to answer. Because I don't think I'd be a lady in what I would like to say to those people!!!!

I have seen enough drama on certain Internet groups in the last two weeks to last me a while. I don't need any more drama right now.

Thanks for all you do for us!

elisa

07-20-2007, 08:27 PM

Mel, I've no idea why someone's attacking PH, I'm just sorry you have to deal with this stuff.

Doris

07-20-2007, 11:37 PM

I think PH is a cool place. Hubby says I'm addicted... but it is a great place. Just what I have been looking for in a board, it has a little bit of everything, good people, great help in various areas and a very very healthy dose of Bible. The best thing is, we all agree to disagree and we all get along without bickering about whose denomination is better than the others.... Anyway, you keep this up and don't let the sourpusses get at you.

Hugs,
Doris

annette

07-21-2007, 01:21 AM

Mel I think you covered it very well. I expect that if anyone has a problem to come to me about it. And if we cannot solve it between us, then we either agree to disagree or bring a moderator into it to help solve the issue. I was raised this way from infancy. I guess that is why I never understood the "dating" games that all the girls played throughout school.

glenda

07-21-2007, 02:56 AM

i think these people have nothing better to do than spread trash,ph does not need these sort of people i personally feel ph is like a huge family for everyone to share i feel quite safe here.i feel quite priveleged to be a member here.

katieanne

07-21-2007, 06:27 AM

I stay on the board because of the people and the fellowship and of course the wonderful information to be gleaned.

Mel, there will always be a certain percentage of people who are dissatisfied with the board. They are entitled to their opinion...as are all. People who leave and then spread bad feelings should be ignored. After all, this is still a free speech country. Replying or deleting often whips up more contraversey....IMHO.

Thanks for a wonderful place for me to come and learn,grow and make friends.

QuiltingLady

07-21-2007, 08:10 AM

This is a wonderful board fill with positive Christian Ladies. I believe that if we stay positive and Christian in our thoughts and actions then like minded people will feel comfortable staying here. What goes on outside if beyound my control. It's just the 'world' and so many times people who are unhappy see something good and just have to try to ruin it. Don't worry about them. We are positive here and continue to be. If we don't rise to the bait they will get tired of no respose.

Jumo.

QLady

Wonderful site Mel. Thank you.

Mammamel

07-21-2007, 08:53 AM

Thank you ladies.
As to why I answer them, God says a quiet answer turns away wrath. So my thoughts are, they see such garbage posted, and I come in and calmly reply, as a lady should, they see who I am, and who the other poster is, and they can decide for themselves who they will trust. some one who acts like a pit bull, or some one who showcases an attitude of a calm quiet spirit.
If I had it to do over again, I would leave the old nasty posts there and just quietly reply to them. I doubt anyone will post that way there again.

My3Boys

07-21-2007, 09:51 AM

I just wanted to say that this forum has been a blessing to me. I also wanted to say that any forum (or any kind of group, for that matter) that is made up of people is not going to be perfect, there will always be some sort of problem or another. Too many people expect perfection where Christians are involved, especially non-Christians.

Scripture also tells us to expect persecution, and for very good reasons.

All that being said, I'm glad I'm here, and please don't let all the negativity discourage you. It's understandable to be disappointed, especially if these were people you knew, but don't be discouraged.

Carol

Marty Mo

07-21-2007, 04:18 PM

ph is my haven and i will fight for it and stand behind mel every day of the week.

gayla50

07-21-2007, 06:50 PM

This site is such a blessing to me , a quiet place. Good honest people
thank you for this site .

Linda

07-22-2007, 04:08 PM

I just read this after being away for awhile. Anytime I have been uncomfortable when I have posted, it was because I needed to rethink my views. But I have always felt safe and loved in a Christian, caring way here. I love this site. Linda

grace

07-23-2007, 12:09 AM

SusanAnn

07-24-2007, 11:02 AM

I just don't get why people feel the need to say mean things about this site .
I'm just returning here after a break, I took a break because I got upset at something that someone said to me in a thread. When I got upset I realised this said something about me and that I needed to be less involved in the internet world, so I went off and did more cooking and caught up with my reading...then last night I realised I would like some online fellowship so I started reading posts again.
This is a good, well run site, and I am thankful for it.

grace

07-24-2007, 07:43 PM

Mamame

07-24-2007, 07:47 PM

Mish

07-26-2007, 06:34 PM

Being here has been an absolute blessing from God for me and my family. I can't thank all of you enough for what you've done in my life.

Mel, *HUGS*
There are small-minded people all over the world. Unfortunately they usually have big mouths. I know--I've been one in my life. But I'm better for having found you guys--and I hope my mind has grown and my mouth has shrunk! :cheeky-smiley-025:

pinkcarnation

07-30-2007, 04:07 PM

I love this place and feel like you all are family. Mel, we all have your back!

snakes_charmers102

08-02-2007, 09:43 PM

I love ph very much..i am trying to get my families life on track and ph has been a big help with that.While i was camping my hard drive crashed and i had no way to get on ph and read everything.You know it drove me nuts until i got it fixed.I start out my day by doing exercises, going for a walk and coming on ph...

Jalynn

08-03-2007, 08:51 AM

I'm new to the site and after reading all the posts here I'd like to respond. As an "older" believer I've seen alot and find, for me, it's easier to walk away and talk to the Father before responding. Sometimes it isn't worth my tiime to respond. My great aunt was my "spiritual" mom and so many of her quotes and warnings mean more now that I'm older. I pray the whole armor of God over me everyday Eph.6 :10 and put a "guard" at my mouth reminding me I am, and will be to God, accountable for every word I speak and have spoken. The Bible warns us many times about "idle chatter". You have to remember one of Jesus's twelve closest to Him betrayed Him and Peter, I think he's more like the "modern day" human...trying so hard to be perfect and Jesus kept responding to him with a firm but loving spirit. I was taught the older ladies in the faith were to help the younger women become more mature in the Lord. We've lost most of those teachings, sad! There will always be those who don't understand or care what we do or believe for those I pray for salvation and understanding...those who do join together and want honest fellowship according to the Word, I cherish the time spent together and my prayer for you is wisdom in the faith you hold above all else. Believe me with life's ups and downs it nice to know you have friends that will rally around you and hold you up to the Father. Reminds me of Moses~he had to have help holding up his arms so the people could cross the Red Sea! The Lord reminds me we are like a puzzle~just one piece but when we come together things get done. Over time I've learned my battles are won on my knees ~in prayer ~and now I can say I don't fight anymore battles~God does!~after all He tells us to cast ALL our burdens (problems) on Him ! My relationship with Christ is the most precious treasure I have and the only thing that keeps me going ! I have my PHD...Past Having Doubts when it comes to God ! He's always been there even when I couldn't "see" Him. Keep on doing what He puts in your heart, this is a wonderful ministry! When you realize WHO you are in Christ your PLACE in Him is easier to understand. I've taught many Bible studies on this and if you'd like to know more I'd be happy to share. Matt. 5:7~" Blessed are the merciful:for they shall obtain mercy."

MissDee

08-21-2007, 10:47 AM

"Look here is the deal. PH is a Faith based Bible literal site. That means folks who value their religion above the Bible are not going to find it comfortable. We do not support the work of any preachers or other teachers who press their ideas above God, or over His word.

It also means folks who want to discuss the latest scandals are not going to be welcome. We can get plenty of scandal and stuff to get upset about all over the web.

PH is a place for like minded women to gather and support each other. "
Boy, did I ever find a site for me!!! Thanks Mammamel!!!! I'll be praying for your peace today.

annette

08-21-2007, 11:31 AM

Mammamel I start and end my day with PH. But I have to admit, I fear I am addicted. So on my 15 minutes down I check it. I have to limit myself or I would get nothing else done. You all mean a lot to me and having this support is very reassuring. Thank you all.

Unregistered

08-24-2007, 07:12 PM

The sig line about he who needs to pray needs to worship and he who is happy needs to dance with joy! I LOVE it! Fantastic reminder. I have a 3 year old with special needs, he has a seizure disorder, is delayed and is visually impaired as well....well the other day, we were doing dishes and cleaning up in the kitchen and a wonderful song by Mark Schultz came on and Samuel and I were dancing in the kitchen....it melted my heart and I longed for my other two boys to be there with us!

ozarkcrafter

09-05-2007, 04:21 PM

I have not been here long at all but i like it so far. I don't understand why sometimes people are bent on causing harm to others. It's a shame, that I know. huggles, Michelle